Narcissism and dating
For example he would say he was really close friends with someone but when I met them they seemed to barely know him.Then we went to his family for New Years Eve, (he had told me he was adopted and had just met his biological family a few years earlier and moved from Sask.He will reveal a few of his indiscretions and weaknesses so you feel safe being open and honest with him.He wants to get to know you alright, just not for the reason you think.It is one thing if a guy introduces you to his friends but it is another thing if he purposely shows you off in ways that it will get back to his ex. Past accomplishments or experiences that are just a little too far-fetched or too good to be true. If you discuss past relationships and he is asked about fidelity he will tearfully admit to having ONE indiscretion, and it was only because his ex was so jealous and was always “falsely” accusing him anyway and he did it and then felt so bad.A decent person does not purposely hurt their ex and if he expects you to participate in vengeful acts against his ex it is a dead give-away that someday you will find yourself in the same boat. Very forceful sexually and wants sex within the first date or two, barely taking no for an answer. To read his resume or hear about his life it all sounds just a little (or a lot) far-fetched. (Leaving you to believe he will be faithful with YOU as long as you don’t falsely accuse him) Whatever went wrong was not his fault, he was the victim, misunderstood.
In his past relationships, at work, even with his family he is always doing all the work, the only one putting in an effort, he is holding the company together or the relationship. Changes jobs many times, gets bored easily, accused of stealing, someone at work is jealous of him and lying about him. Once you lose your job you are dependent on him and it is so much harder to get away. Very early in the relationship he talks in “we” terms, saying things like are “we” going to take the car or the truck (not your car or mine), or let’s go back to “our” place, subtle little things that make you a “couple”.
(That is until he stopped sleeping with me a year or 2 into the relationship and kept telling me he loved me and I was being overly sensitive and paranoid) 5. Taking you to mutual friends of his ex’s, (if possible he will use you are a pawn to hurt his ex.) Quickly takes you to meet the family.