Maintaining purity in dating
I’ve met with many young men and women who think that their struggle to stay pure would end with a wedding ceremony. However, the battle will not end in marriage; it just changes.
This means that married men and women should be learning mysteries of God as they experience sex together.
Here I would like to present five lies that you may believe — lies that make the battle for sexual purity far more difficult.
As ridiculous as it sounds, many Christians grow up thinking that they will magically become sexual when they get married.
It may seem “harmless” but will lead you down a path that may ultimately compromise the potential of a pure sexual relationship in the future.
Jesus made it clear that sexual integrity isn’t just about the body, but about what we feed our minds (Matthew -30). No matter what horrible thoughts come into your mind, they do not have to define you.
We will ache for His presence and have deep longings that are unmet. John Piper stated, “The ultimate reason why we are sexual is to make God more fully knowable.” This truth is not simply applied to marriage, but also to singles. Your married friends are free to have sex, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t struggling with porn, fantasy, images from the past, extramarital flirtations, and conflict over sex in marriage.