I keep dating the wrong girls
Girlfriends who left me at weddings, restaurants and holiday parties. Girlfriends who threatened to beat up people with candlesticks. Anyway, once upon a time, one of my friends was listening to one of my dating horror stories and offered her diagnosis: It was a reasonable conclusion to draw. That’s when it dawned upon me: My problem wasn’t that I was attracted to crazy women…Yes, I was attracted to women, and yes, a certain percentage of them were going to be crazy. The real issue was how much time I’d invested in these women, hoping that they’d suddenly become calm. I continually put myself through roller-coaster relationships with insecure people, hoping that they would work themselves out. When you’re dating a man who has been with you for five years and never proposed, the problem is that you ACCEPTED HIM.After all, I did have a disproportionate number of stories about highly emotional women. When you’re dating a man who is verbally abusive, and shuts down when you attempt to reasonably communicate with him, the problem is that you ACCEPTED him.Everyone Is Doing It This is less of a rule and more of a fact to keep in mind: That guy you're on your first date with is on his fourth first date this month, and so are you.My friend P (and no, her real name is not just a letter but if you're friends with P, then you're friends with me) put it best.I’m telling you that if you think you ATTRACT flawed men, you’re incorrect. By your definition, 95% of them are going to be the “wrong” men.As such, you’re never going to stop attracting the wrong men.
I talked to people who are living/have lived the three-Internet-dates-a-week life, and distilled their advice into some basic rules of thumb.
Maybe, more importantly, they deserve to It's Not What You Say, It's How You Say It Most people you meet are prepared for you to do something shitty to them. But there's a big difference between a bad thing done poorly and a bad thing done well.