Finnish dating customs
If they married against their parents' wishes, they could not expect a dowry or inheritance.After 1864 a 21-year-old could marry anyone without consent.The suitor was accompanied by a spokesman; in western Finland this was an older person and a family friend.In Karelia it was the suitor's father or a relative.The future daughter-in-law might also stay for a week and help with the household work. and in the 17th century it could be silver goblets.Rings weren't used until the 18th century in western Finland, and not until the early 19th century in eastern Finland.Later the young people traveled into town together to buy rings and a silken scarf. According to the ecclesiastic order of 1571 the banns had to be published before a betrothal.
In eastern Finland it was customary to hold both betrothal and banns parties.There were also various church holidays and festivals.