Dating the timing is not right
I could have a great phone conversation with a man but have zero in-person chemistry. R I’d be open to meeting for coffee — even a cappuccino!After some back and forth banter and fun messaging, we arranged to meet in a few days.We had another emotional and honest exchange of emails but it was clear that Mr. In my farewell email, I noted that he had joined one of the Meetups I am in and he said we might run into each other at some point. and couldn’t help but compare the guys I dated to him. R was definitely someone they had to measure up to – or not.So I moved on, lived my life, and pursued the dating lifestyle. Over the next several months, I occasionally stalked Mr.A few months ago, I signed up to attend a concert with one of my Meetup groups.The concert promised to be great but that was not my motivation.But then, I encountered some men who were able to carry on such a fun and witty conversation by email or text, that I forgot the rule and agreed to meet. So it seems that meeting someone great is often a result of chance, or fate or kismet. This first date was preceded by only a few emails and texts (funny, witty, and creative ones though).This doesn’t mean that the first date, even if it’s fantastic, will lead to a relationship. We had incredible chemistry, honesty and intimacy almost from the start. It was in his profile but somehow in my pre-date excitement I had missed it.
He wrote, “but life goes on and I enjoy having a substantive woman in my life to share adventures and conversation.” As careful as I am about vetting my dates before I meet them, I had skipped right over this crucial piece of profile information. R to cancel our coffee date or go anyway for the experience of meeting a nice, attractive man with the remote possibility that one day it might turn into something. After all, I was on a mission to go out with lots of men to help me figure out what I was looking for. We walked to an outdoor café and began what turned into an unusually honest and intimate conversation for a first date. During the first few minutes, I remember thinking, “Hmmm, I don’t know if this guy is for me.” But something happened after 15 minutes. We clicked and started sharing personal details of our lives in an incredibly open way for total strangers.
We exchanged a few emails where he wavered briefly in his resolve to not pursue us; so then I fired him.