Dating others during trial separation
So your partner has said ‘I love you but’, has been having an affair or you’ve been arguing so much it’s been affecting the kids.
Your partner wants a trial separation but you’re worried that’s just a nice way of saying ‘it’s over’. Instead of everything ‘magically’ going away, as I’d hoped, I’ve found myself agreeing to a ‘trial separation’ and to ‘work on the marriage’…but at a distance.
That’s because they are fielding ten texts and five long emails a day or when their partner comes to collect the children ends up hanging around the house.
I know it’s tough because your fear is out of sight and out of mind (and if that’s the case how can you ‘work’ on your marriage).
If your partner knows the rules for contact – and can have some input into deciding on them – he or she will find it much easier to cope.
I’m not a fan of trial separations, that’s for certain, but I’m not a fan of not listening to your partner either!I share child care responsibilities and tidy up around the house or do other little things to illustrate that I’m in fact capable of change.