Conservative jewish dating
Because my life is lived Jewishly, and that’s all that matters to me.
Sarah Elizabeth Hartman was born and raised in San Francisco, and has since been gentrified out to the edges of the Bay Area.
Not an interfaith, interracial, mixed, different, special, unique relationship. One that, when we get married, cannot be officiated by an Orthodox or Conservative rabbi, or be recognized in Israel, because I’m Jewish and he’s not. What weirds me out isn’t that our marriage wouldn’t be recognized in a vast number of Jewish institutions.
And it’s not some wildly different experience dating someone not Jewish, because where it counts, he is: His values are made of compassion, justice, and kindness. So while the rabbinate may think our relationship is disgusting, invalid, or horrifying, I don’t care.
My partner and I are some weird local version of the Lovings in the Jewish community. On the flip side, there are those in the Jewish community who think my relationship is somehow single handedly responsible for the decline and eventual annihilation of the Jewish people. Imagine having that kind of power (and pressure) when it comes to who you binge Netflix with. And because of that, and the fact that we became a minority by being murdered, exiled, and persecuted for 2,000 years, there’s a fear that intermarriage will water down Jewry till it no longer exists. They convert to a religion that feels more like home. I get why some young Jews really only want to date within the community. Sometimes other Jews are easier to relate to, and you don’t have to teach them things like why Hanukkah is actually not that big of a deal, for crying out loud, stop marketing it like Christmas! And that won’t make my future children any less Jewish.
No matter how many times it happens, I still find myself appalled when a so-called “modern” Jew tells me that I’m hurting my people by dating outside the faith. And for some people who date outside the Jewish community, that does happen: They marry someone non-Jewish, have kids, don’t raise them Jewish in any way, and those kids have kids, and they aren’t Jewish, and before you know it, no one in the family is Jewish or has any idea they were Jewish in the first place. Sometimes they want to have a Jewish household with a Jewish spouse, and celebrate traditions and rituals that they have in common. That’s the key thing here: My kids will be Jewish no matter what.
Once we have a pool of volunteers, we will schedule a brief training session. The United Jewish Congregation of Hong Kong (UJC) was founded in 1988 by three long term residents of Hong Kong, Robert Green, Charles Monat and Robert L. Their objective for the UJC was "to advocate the cause of Reform, Liberal, Conservative, and other non-Orthodox Jews in Hong Kong" and to encourage their participation in Jewish life to the fullest.
We are a warm, welcoming, vibrant congregation, with adults and children actively engaged in all aspects of the community.
She is someday going to finish her dual MA in Jewish studies and Arts Education; she lives with six cats, has a great mom, and a heckin’ cool partner.